Episode 6: Two creepy guys for the price of one or learning to wing

We start with them talking about the final 4, before Rian heads back into the room. Simion calls it the fantastic four and they all pontificate on why the game now matters. Whether they don't care about finishing 2nd or 8th because they want to just win. Or some other such standard reality show fare.

Rian comes in.

Simion is wearing an affliction shirt proving only douche bags wear affliction. And rapists.

They go to meet Mystery at a grocery store to try some day game.

Mystery talks about making day time approaches as indirect as possible, this is patently wrong. Day game needs to be more direct as there are legitimate time constraints. Also since you don't have much time you need to use your opener to build attraction. Very few things build attraction as quickly as demonstrating balls. I don't even do indirect during the day anymore as it usually just devolves into small talk or you have to make it direct with a statement of intent quickly.

Matt- makes sure that he brings a hand cart with him to look like he’s shopping that’s a good idea. He starts a conversation with some small talk and never cuts in to start a real conversation. Now he starts actually food shopping while Mystery and Tara tool him. Matt has never been forced to deal with his approach anxiety. One of my problems with the way Mystery teaches is that he doesn';t give strategies to deal with approach anxiety, other than a bunch of rhetoric about how it never goes away and you have to use the 3 second rule. How are you going to approach in 3 seconds when you're terrified. You need strategies for dealing with AA. I personally teach a combo of mental reframes and physical actions to snap you out of your head. Matt has no strategy and has to try to force himself to approach with sheer force of will. Not the best idea.


Rian -comes in and opens, then does the trust test. It’s a little weird but it’s getting accepted and the girl seems to be into it. Rian gets a number after a short time. The girl makes a super weirded out face after he walks away. He was now wearing the douchebag affliction shirt. Further proving my point.

Simion opens with an opinion opner and doesn’t look at the girl, he doesn’t even notice when THE GIRL WALKS AWAY WHILE HE'S STILL TALKING! He opens another girl and almost instantly tries to get her #. She tells him she doesn’t even know his name, he very needily says " what is yoru name" persists a bit, gets a flaky if not fake # and then kisses her on the cheek and freaks her out.

Greg- He stares at a girl and then tries to open her while she’s walking away. Needy. Then he asks her where a good bar or club is. She walks away. He then opens and stands there until the girl leaves. Now he’s hovering like a fruit fly. Eventually this girl feeling like she's being stalked by psycho clown killer John Wayne Gacy walks away and he retreats into Matador's safe arms...

Rian wins the reward challenge and then says he feels a little bit like a pimp. These guys hold themselves to really low standards because they never focused on inner game in the beginning. I'm all for taking credit for your successes but these were not successes, they were very forced. All that was proven here was that it's not that hard to get a girl's phone #. But that doesn;t mean she'll pick up the phone or meet up. I'm shocked as it seems they haven't covered qualification at all. I'm sure Mystery taught a few routines but like MOST students the guys can't remember them when they're out because of their social anxiety.

Now the guys learn about being wings. Mystery says that true masters work with wings. I disagree. To me the crucible of pickup is going out alone and coming home with a girl. I also find it funny that Mystery doesn't mention his own personal winging style of tooling you by using an "accomplishment intro" about how you do things for him and are like his personal assistant." He also doesn;t mention how he steals his wings' sets and impregnates them. Guess it just slipped his mind. They start talking about accomplishment intros. A.Is are really OBVIOUS. We used to try to use these all the time when I worked for TMM, but they look lame. The best way to help your friend is simply to be more interested in him than in the girls, and to make it obvious that you guys have a good time together and are actually...(gasp) friends.

Mystery is still trying to get these guys to get makeouts. They are not ready especially when two of the 4 guys are still struggling with approach anxiety. Rian gets to pick his wing because he won the challenge, and he picks Greg.

Simion wants to make bets and Matt compares them to mel brooks and carl reiner… Dated reference much? I like that there’s actually an element of compeititon between the 4 guys now. I don't think these guys get along as well as the guys last season, and I dig it. I want some trash talking to happen. Mostly cause I love trash talk. I'm like the Gary Payton of game.

And for once the guys look like their having fun in the car on the way there! This is a step in the right direction.

I guess they had a small budget for clothing on this show cause now Mystery is wearing Matador’s white pants while Matador is rocking the wifebeater and camo pants. All he’s missing is the CAMARO!

Rian goes in first and opens a girl by herself until it turns into a group of 3 girls. Greg obviously wants Rian to open because of his AA. Greg isolates the girl to the table proving that it is easier to come in as a wing than actually opening a set. And that having a table allows you to instantly go into movement. Again i have to mention the table thing, it's cheating. The guys have done nothing to establish value, there's an awkward silence and they throw the table out there and get the girls to move. Tables subcommunicate the right things for you, but unless your rich you won;t have them every night you go out. I really think it's a disservice to these guys to have them here, as their bad habits get reinforced. Had they tried to move those girls to anywhere but a table it would not have worked.

Greg isolates his girl and leaves Rian with two girls and no clue how to handle it. He then goes for the kiss and gets it. This is fucked up because as a wing your main job is to help the guy who OPENED the set isolate, not to isolate yourself.

Rian is still not touching the girls and they are throwing the triple kiss opportunity at him. Rian is racked with sexual anxiety and leaves the set after the girls basically ask him to kiss both of them. Including the blonde leaning into him. This is textbook sexual anxiety. At one point he pecked the brunette on the lips but they talked about kissing for what felt like an hour and he could not take the hint. I'm pretty sure he's a virgin but we've uncovered a major issue. He's uncomfortable with touching and escalation. That goes back to one of the two main problems guys have sexual anxiety and social anxiety.

Simion goes in with the creepy opener and then Matt comes in and talks about the caper… Again nothing demonstrated and the move to the table happens. You can open girls by asking them to come to your table and it works, this is not pick up. Matt is now telling a stupid DHV story about MR T, and not touching at all. Simion the rapist gets the kiss.

Matt is still not touching the girl at all, even when she’s giving him all the green lights. Simion is trying to use an accomplishment intro but it seems forced as he’s talking Matt up in front of him. It's obvious what's going on. Matt Finally goes for the kiss and gets it as well.

Matt says he had no approach anxiety, that could be because he didn’t approach. Simion approached.

Now Matt and Simion do a great confession scene as Simion again removes his shirt... He looks like Skeletor from He-man except way scarier.

Rian is pissed at Greg for dropping the ball. Greg is near tears in his confessional.

It’s elimination time, which means we get medallions bitches!

Matador and Mystery start asking Rian why he didn’t kiss the girl and he says that he doesn’t kiss his family. “ Hi my name is intimacy issues.” Instead of talking about that or working on that the guys just tell him that pickup artists kiss and that’s the way it is. Great teaching. Tools.

They also tell Greg he left Rian hanging. Which is partially true.

They ask them to tell them why they should both be there and Greg throws Rian under the bus by telling them that he thinks he’ll reach his potential faster than Rian. Sure if your potential is not opening and then leaving your friend high and dry, I agree whole heartedly.

Greg gets the final medallion and Rian the crier heads home.

I love the flickering candles they have in the elimination room. Spooky.

Rian mentions that he legitimately kissed a woman on the lips in his final confessional. He’s a little bitter. Thank god him and his tears are gone,

Honestly this show gets harder and harder to watch every week. I wish I still smoked weed with two episodes to go.

S

I love this guy!

There is a guy who owns two sites www.datinggroundwork.com and www.succeedsocially.com.

He's been through some of the community stuff and has an AWESOME perspective on why it's so weird and a lot of the BULLSHIT out there.

Especially if you're new, you should read all of his articles specifically those focused on why the community is so weird.

I honestly wish I had written some of these articles because they really do speak to a lot of the issues in the community I've been trying to fix for years...

Here's direct links to his sites

Succeed Socially

Datinggroundwork

I'm also going to add him to the resource bar.

S

And the Winner is...

Wow,

First of all thanks for all the entries into the Caption contest. We got almost 70 different comments(not including the guys who put 2 or 3 in there) but ironically the first comment we got ended up being the winner.

Pure Win's comment about getting the scissors to cut his sleeves off is the winner.

So Pure Win email me at Sinnstravel at Gmail.com and I will send you a free copy of the LR book today.

Thanks again guys, this was great!

S

Cameron Teone's new course

Hey guys,

My buddy Cameron Teone of Attract Women Anywhere just released a new audio course on the foundational skills of being an attractive man.

Cameron is one of the few guys out there who isn't full of shit and has integrity. He's also giving away a free PDF and 60 minute audio on basic conversational skills(something EVERYONE in the community could get better at)

Check them out Here

S

Contest! Create A Caption!

So I was forwarded this picture of Matador and Cajun as well as a few funny captions for it.

Such as:

“Bro. That girl just AI’ed me. THAT one. I’m so Alpha!”

“There’s Erik. I’m his ball-washer not you, and don’t you forget it”

“Try to keep your eyes open, I’m displaying my alphaness by pointing”

“You...yes YOU. Can you believe this half-asleep freak has better game than me? Ouch”

I'll add a few of my own...

" Which way is the beach? It's THAT way"

" Whoever points first is MOST alpha"

" So you're sure the gay club is THAT way..."

" Which way did the bum offering blowjobs for crack go? That way?"

Anyhoo, I'm offering a free copy of The Lay Report Book to anyone who comes up with a funnier caption than these.

Submit them in the comments.

S

Thing that is annoying me today

Bill Simmons ESPN"s " The Sports Guy" ( who coincidentally read my email to try to get into him and Matt Berry's Basketball fantasy league in the OCT 21st episode of The B.S Report)

Is not writing an article today... He writes them every Tuesday and Fri usually, but due to some feud he's having with ESPN he's writing less and less.

I just quit smoking pot and cigarettes 11 days ago. I NEED my Simmons fix...

If I end up going on a homicidal rampage at ESPN's HQ in Conn, this was a warning sign.

S

It's probably not your fault...

Hey guys,

I was just talking to my father last night and something really dawned on me.

We were talking about a voicemail he left me where he read off the statistics of tourism deaths in Brazil over the last year(I'm going to Brazil in Feb). After I put him in check as I'm known to do, I realized that all the negativity and paranoia I have comes from 16 years of being berated with worst case scenarios from my parents.

No wonder I had the outlook on life I did when I was getting constant negative reinforcement for everything I did. And I know I'm not alone.

Most people forget that parents are just people. Meaning that they may not have the most healthy views of the world. But they damn sure pass that on to their kids.

Now I don't want to encourage anyone to start fostering a mentality of victim thinking, because we're all adults now and responsible for ourselves. I just wanted to make the point that a lot of our thinking patterns that we tend to blame ourselves for (Negativity, success barriers, low self esteem) come from outside sources most notably our parents, friends and support group.

The point of this post is to encourage you to accept where you're at now MAY not be your fault but to take responsibility for changing the things about the way you think that are not helpful or empowering.

Best,

S

The Pick Up Artist Ep # 5 How girls thinking you're gay and wanting to get their nails done with you saves you from elimination!

We start off with Greg coming through the door and the guys talk about how you can’t play it safe. Simion says this and I fear for the safety of women in Scottsdale. If he's playing safe, what's next razor blades under his tongue?

Simion is mimicking Mystery with a straw hat and glasses. He looks like a hick who’s trying to be Mick Jagger. Mystery also shows up in the straw hat, coincidence? Or an insidious clue towards the future...

It’s story telling time, as the guys get to be auctioned off in order to get Tara as a wing girl. Mystery's version of story telling goes something like this. Have lame guys who obviously aren;t cool talk about their stripper ex girlfriends, how they're willing to fight to save their stripper ex gfs, how their friends will help them fight to save their stripper exs, and how they're kinda a big deal. The funny thing is this actually works, it just rots your soul as it's working. See Matador...

Mystery -"It’s time to see how much their value is worth… In dollars"

The guys will get onstage to get auctioned off and have a few moments in which to tell a story. Here, I'd opt for doing some grounding about myself and the type of person I am as oppose to telling antecdotes, which feel force in this format.

The guys start practicing their stories on each other...

Matt is telling a story about getting a wine and cheese scholarship, sadly there is no
mention of a stripper or ex gf...

Simion is telling a story about sherpas, and backpacking through India

Brian is talking about going to TJ to get Tacos…

Brian’s having the show’s first mental breakdown before we cut to commercial. He looks near tears ( he's not Rian so he doesn't actually cry) but he can't remember what to say and he's freaked out.

When we come back from the break the guys are onstage at this luncheon for older women who will be bidding on them.

Brian is up first he he says he was looking for white people… He lies about dating a girl and then busts out a dance. He's shimmying all over the stage and generally being a clown. The problem here as I discussed with Shaft last week over dinner is that his friens probably reward him for being this weird. He probably hangs out with a bunch of equally socially awkward guys who think this is cool.

Matt’s up next and talks about being a master winemaker… he acknowledges that he takes some poetic license. A.K.A Mystery teaches guys to lie. He gets bought by a huge old lady and his face looks like Simion just killed his sister.

Rian- Talks about how he loves the stage but he’s way over the top an comes off like the Joker. Way too animated and weird seeming. He then tries to flex and show off his legs to drive up the bidding. He later refers to this as body language DHVS. No they were non verbal indicators of desperation.

Simion the rapist is up and says he doesn’t want to brag but he’s a great person. So was Jack the ripper… He’s also painted his nails black, in an homage to Mystery. I'd make fun of this more if I hadn;t done it myself at one point. The black nails opener is a great opener, but you need to match the rest of your outfit to the nails to be able to pull it off. Sadly Simion does not. Though he does have some interesting things to show girls in his van...

Greg is last. He talks in a weird voice, that isn’t him. Now he talks about his Mormon service mission. Nothing says fun like service. He adds the hyperbolic final line about leaving a boy and coming back a man. They cut to commercial as Greg is $ 50 below winning the comp.

When we come back from break we learn that Greg doesn't get the extra $50 and Matt is our winner. He gets to have Tara by his side to give him great advice like " be yourself, be confident, and of course be cool...

Now they’re learning about hired guns. Again a stupid term, because there are a ton of different types of these girls and you game them all differently. Bartenders, shooter girls, go-go dancers, an strippers to name a few. Let's just lose the precious 10 seconds it will take to specify who you're gaming and call the girls by their job titles. We really don't need to be weird! If Obama can win the presidency we can make pick up normal in 2009. YES WE CAN!!!!

This is another example of poorly timed information as these guys CAN”T HOLD A CONVERSATION YET!!!! They don’t need to learn this stuff yet. I really hope that Mystery is being pressured by VH1 to push these guys forward and he doesn't actually think these guys are ready for this. They can barely open! They should be focused on building social comfort, breaking rapport an touching right now, while having COMFORTABLE conversations. You have to learn to walk before you can run. I really do think the show is pressuring them to push forward.

They’re learning to neg and insulting Tara, this is amazing!!!

Brian says she's the orangest girl he's ever seen

Simion says she looks like his half brother… He fails to mention he killed him.


Now it’s time to go to a bikini model show…

The guys all look stressed out as Rian cries AGAIN!!! Fuck! Man up dude! You consistently look like a little bitch EVERY week. He's talking about how he wears his heart on his sleeve. Guess what that's not what men do! Men are supposed to be emotionally stable so that we can allow women the freedom to wear their emotions openly.

Matt tries to help him, but he’s crying and talking about how he can’t remember the lines. Matt parrots back some of Mystery’s advice about failing spectacularly. And thankfully we leave this scene. I would literally slap Rian, if I was teaching him. He needs a MASSIVE event to transform him. I hope he gets cut.

Again on the way to meet girls they are not having fun or getting in state.
You can’t be nervous or in your head and have this stuff work. Especially Mystery's material which is crafted to give the air of confidence. if you're having a panic attack, negs don't work.

Mystery is wearing chainmail… and a peasant shirt under it. I guess medevil times is his next "avatar" I heard the one in Dallas is looking for a Sorcerer. So Erik if you need a job once you're show's done. Holla at ya boy.

Tara talks about how’s she’s been a hired gun for years… And doesn’t like being treated like a piece of meat. Thank you for that insight. She apparently doesn't mind being called a hired gun or being eye candy on a reality show.

Matador thankfully isn’t wearing sleeves. Everytime I see him in sleeves I break out in a col sweat...

Matt is trying to imitate mystery’s vocal cadence, again, I'd make fun of this more if I didn't try the same thing. Now I just do a kick ass Mystery impression.

Greg pussys out of opening and instead hovers close to a 2 set. Yikes he opens with did you slip and then asks what agency she’s from and why she’s not sweating. Greg really can't seem to get out of the interview questions as he used to open by talking about the weather. He needs an opener he thinks is fun. That way he'll enjoy doing it instead of using situational ones like he oes here.

Mystery asks if he’s failing them… He’s not he’s just expecting them to improve faster than they are capable.

Brian goes right into a big group of 5 models and a guy. Then he gets really weird by talking about pickle juice. Then he chases as she walks away. Again no social calibration, and he thinks being weird is funny.

Next he negs the girl by calling her orange and offends them…

Brian feels bad in his heart and doesn’t realize he fucked up by being CREEPY. He's blaming the girls when he can't see that what he's doing is really weird.

Mystery is saying he has to sit down with them, but doesn’t realize he hasn’t addressed their sticking points instead he’s just kept pushing them forward. He's rewarded mediocre results. The truth is guys you don't nee game to open and get phone numbers, they'll all just flake or not answer. Just cause these guys are passing challenges doesn't mean they're improving, anything other than their inability to open. Which I agree is half the battle.

Rian is doing well, then ejects because he didn’t try to isolate.

Matt and Tara head in, and Matt freezes up. He can’t approach…

He freaks out these girls by approaching from behind. Tara comes back in and it helps a bit. Now he’s back in… Ohh too many negs and he gets called on it. he asks the girl if she mostly does hand modeling then calls her hands kinda manly. These negs contradict each other and just make you a dick. You don’t need this many negs and she actually PHYSICALLY MOVES AWAY before he ejects… these guys have learned 0 ways to break rapport besides negging.

Simion the rapist rolls up, and starts talking to dudes… Now he’s in with the same girl Matt blew out earlier.. He gets a number WAY too soon… The girls think he’s gay. The girls notice his nail polish and he starts Johnny Storming it up( that's the real name of the human torch for those who don't read fantastic four). He number closes in like a minute and the girl seems interested. In having a gay best friend she can get her nails done with. Look I come off gay sometimes(esp in Texas and London) you can use that to get more room to sexually escalate. But you have to make it clear You're trying to fuck her...

Simion the ripper wins.

Mystery says it's clear he was listening.

It’s not clear that he’s listening and Mystery was talking shit when he got the number… He's just saying that for the show. Lame.

Matt thinks his set was successful… Even though the girl almost ran from him.

Elimination time comes early this episode as Mystery wears a fur coat.

Medallion time- this one promises success…

Matador has white pants on, he’s missing a moustache, the cloud of brut, and a tank top.

Brian gets eliminated giving us at least one more episode of rian’s tears…
I’m sad that my favorite guy is leaving. But it makes sense he couldn’t stop being a fucking weirdo.


In a bizarre leaving video, he talks about how he’s ready for kissing apparently…

Let's go to this week's power poll:

1. Matt- I actually think Matt will win despite still having MAJOR AA. He keeps winning challenges during the day and he's talking like Mystery, which I know Erik Appreciates.

2. Greg- He's good looking so he never does that badly but he really isn't using anything he's learned and that will catch up with him. He's still somewhat normal though which is more than I can say for the next 2.

3. Rian- He's a bitch, I wanna slap him. But he doesn;t make me want to call the police so he's # 3.

4. Simion- He won today but he still gives us 2-3 cringe worthy moments of creepiness EVERY episode.


Til next week...

S

MY Top 10 PUAS List

Hurray Dick Crack!

I'm not big on ranking how good people are at pickup, but for some reason I've been getting deluged recently by emails from guys asking me who's legit and who isn't so I decided that I'd put together a top ten list. I'm only going to be ranking guys I've ACTUALLY seen in field so some people who are probably more than deserving will be left off.

Let's start off with the notables who didn't make the list:

Future- Had the second best run I've ever seen in 2006 where literally every girl he talked to he ended up fucking within a year. Retired with a girlfriend.

Tim from RSD- The only thing keeping Tim off is that I haven't seen him in field since Cliffslist 2005 back when even he will admit he wasn't that great. If half of what I've heard from Moxie, TD, and students is true, he's probably a top 2 guy. But I haven't seen it so he's off for now...

Jlaix- I've smoked with Jeffy and seen him do kareoke but haven't seen him game. I know he's one of the top guys as well as my personal favorite dating coach, but rules are rules.

Toecutter- Hurts to leave him off, but I know he hasn't been that active in the past few years, so we can't award points for having been a legend at one point.

Zan- Zan has ridiculous comfort game and I would never want to introduce him to a girl I was into, but his cold approach game is not up to par(as he would admit himself)

Style- Neil doesn't open due to horribly bad AA and instead leeched off others sets every time I saw him. His warm game is really good though and considering his lack of natural advantages, the fact he gets laid is impressive.

The Kurgen- Right as he was hitting his stride he got a girlfriend. For a guy whose in his mid 40s, and Asian, he has some sick game.

Braddock, Da Hunter, and Rokker- All three of these guys have a ton of natural advantages but get amazing results. if not for that fact that some uglier, older, more socially retarded guys have equal game, they'd all make the list.

Geoff formerly of RSD- Had amazing game, got married and has a kid. A success story.


Allright onto the list:

10. Mehow- Balls of steel, plus the best "synthetic" attraction game out there, get Mehow the 10th spot. His attraction game almost always works and he has some of the best mixed set game I've ever seen.

9. TD- I missed TD at his peak, but since I've been out with him his ability to control frames, and dominate social interactions is almost without peer. He's another guy who takes the hardest sets possible and plows.

8. Moxie- Biggest balls in the community bar none. Also has some of the fastest escalation game I've ever seen. No one does more intense things than Moxie. Especially when it comes to mixed sets and Amogging. Plus he has no approach anxiety, every night we go out he's in set as I'm looking around trying to figure out where the bar is.

7. Doc Holliday and Entropy- Can't really separate these guys. Entropy has better advantages and results. Doc makes the most of what he has and probably has technically superior game. Both of these guys are massively underrated. Doc's day game is probably second best in the world to mine and his night game has come on incredibly strong. When we were in Orlando for his 21st he ended up getting laid his second night out in a bar.

6. Julian Foxx- I walked into his house as he was threesoming two gorgeous strippers. I have NO idea what he does, but it works better than almost everything everyone else is doing.

5. El Topo- Unstoppable once he gets into comfort. He's the best at sexual escalation, baiting, building compliance, and dominance. He also got good faster than almost anyone else.

4. Savoy- He's gonna be mad at me for ranking him this high. The most underrated pick up artist out there hands down. I learned more from him than anyone for the first 2 years I was in the game. His game is VERY different from anyone else I've ever seen. Most dominant guy in set by far.

3. AFC Adam- Best attraction game I've ever seen. Super systematic, he's created a system for himself that simply doesn't fail. HE once explained it to me that he basically finds the cheat codes in everything he does from Magic the gathering games to pickup. Unbelievably good.

2. Mystery- If I had to bet my life on someone picking up the hottest girl in a club(not closing her the first night) I'd put it on Erik. The only thing that keeps him from being the best is the fact that he stays dogmatically rooted to the 7 hour rule and "solid game".

1. Brad P and Captain Jack- I kept trying to separate these 2 and couldn't do it so I have a tie for first place.

When CJ is going out, motivated and opening he's the best I've ever seen. In fact he's the only guy I've ever seen where I was surprised he didn't get laid once he was talking to a girl. He's not really going out anymore, which is the only thing keeping him from knocking Brad back a spot.

Brad P gets the top spot because he's maxed out. Everything in his life helps his game. Great inner game, great outer game, great identity, great fashion, cool car, solid financially, never says anything that isn't interesting and cool. Amazing escalation skills, great at relationship management. There's NOTHING he isn't good at when it comes to game. That's why he's # 1.

S

Do you want to get the girl or be right?

Hey guys,

This is actually a topic that came up on the mastermind board for 12 months to mastery.

We had a student talk about how he was having issues with negativity, I recommended TD's recent post on integrating positivity( You can read it Here)

Anyway, he posted a reply ripping the post for being incoherent and grammatically incorrect. Meanwhile he missed out on a ton of positive ideas from the post. Ironically he knows he has a problem with negativity yet responds to a suggestion designed to help him with pure negativity.

Here's the thing, he's right there are some grammatical errors(not that I can talk) and it is a bit long. But there's a ton of value in the post. SO what this student has to do is decide whether or not he wants to get better with women( by internalizing positivity) or if he wants to be correct and have his reality be validated.

This is a MAJOR sticking point I see students have all the time. Sometimes it manifests itself as a guy saying " the girls I like won't go for this stuff." Other times it happens when a guy really believes girls don't have SNLs, or they think you have to be rich or good looking to get girls. This is a really insidious sticking point because it will affect ALL of your behavior. Beliefs are THE driving force behind actions and results. So if you really believe that you are right, you will find evidence to support it and that belief will only strengthen. This is one of the reasons that it's soo important to keep a student frame and be willing to admit that EVERYTHING YOU KNOW MAY BE WRONG. There's no shame in that, in fact it's empowering because it means you can learn new and more effective ways of living your life, in all areas.

So how does one deal with this sticking point? You have to become aware of it by constantly asking yourself if what you're doing is leading you closer to who you ultimately want to be or further away from it. Regardless of whether or not you're right. What's going to happen if you continue to have this belief that you are right, how is your life going to look?

Or on the other hand you may decide that you'd rather be right than get the results you want. In which case good luck to ya...

S